The Quilt

                                           The Quilt 

                                                                                             (re-posted by request)

Peach and Blessings All

Yesterday, I finally started to pack my winter clothes away in the basement. While looking for an empty storage bin, I came across a quilt that my father-in-law had hand sewn. Don’t laugh, my father-in-law, who I affectionately called Mr. Headrick (he in turn called me his favorite daughter-in-law), was a strong-minded man with a manly presence. And he sewed just like many men of Africa where the making of clothing is the males’ responsibility. Now back to the story. As I pulled the 50 lb. quilt out of the bin, I slipped down memory lane.

Historians say that the art of quilting has been around for centuries. Some say it originated in China and Egypt simultaneously while others link quilting to Japan. History also reflects varies uses for quilts such as, Knights who wore quilted pieces of material under their metal armor for added comfort, warmth and protection from flesh wounds. And I would be remiss if I did not mention that many African American families have handed down folklore about their ancestors who used secret codes hidden within quilt patterns to guide them to escape routes that led to the Underground Railroad. With all that said, I would be willing to bet that quilting was originated via frugal women and men from all over the world who gathered left-over scraps of fabric and pieces of worn out clothing  to sew  them together to create new garments and coverings for their families.

 Back down memory lane…

When I was growing up, my grandparents lived in a drafty two-story brick home located in Gum Tree, Virginia. There was no central heat or kerosene heaters , just two wood burning stoves. During the day those two stoves kept the entire house warm, sometimes even hot. However, there was a drastic change in the temperature at night; the fire would die down because no one was adding wood and stirring the fire. In order to keep us warm during the night, my grandmother would place several blankets on the bed with the outermost covering being one of those heavy handmade quilts. Needless to say I would not be able to move. But as I remember I did not just sleep, I rested and in the morning I did not want to come from under that covering.

 If I am honest, initially I didn’t want my grandmother to put those heavy covers on me – it was very difficult to move throughout the night. Perhaps that is why so many couples don’t want God’s covering on their marriages. They are scared that their marriages will be too restrictive. Do you recognize that God has a covering for your marriage whether you like it or not? Have we forgotten that His word tells us to let marriage be held in honor among all (Hebrews 13). Why is it that so many times we do not heed God’s warning of not separating what He has joined together (Matthew 9:6)? My grandmother covered me up at night because she loved me and she wanted to protect me from the cold. God wants to cover our marriages. He wants to be the one who keeps the fire burning in our homes. Will you let Him?

 

Challenge:

Quilt

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Seek God’s refuge for your marriage. Under His covering your marriage will be a warm comfortable place where your marriage covenant will always be protected. Just like at my grandparent’s house, you and your spouse will not want to come from under this covering.

Peace be unto you,

                    

 

 

 

Evidence of Things Not Seen

Evidence of Things Not Seen 

    

Peach & Blessings All, 

Spring is upon us and it’s time to pull out the warm weather wardrobe. As a part of this effort, I have to transition my winter clothes to the basement and my summer clothes to the closet. This seasonal project usually helps me to locate garments that I have not seen nor worn in a long time. Therefore I was excited but not surprised when the other day I came across what was once my favorite (navy blue) shirt.

In my shopping experience I have found that there are always a surplus of white shirts. They come in every size, shape and fabric.  And I concur that you can never have an over abundance of white shirts. However, there are times when you want to be different and finding something different can often be a drawn-out, difficult, seek & find experience that requires preparation and endurance. So much so that many never find “different.” You know, like finding a spouse.  OK, so I am regressing, let’s get back to my blouse. – Some fashion experts report there are about 60 shades of blue, navy often being the most difficult shade to find in clothing. However, while perusing the racks of Nordstrom, I came across a tailored navy blue blouse that was long-sleeved and adorned with French cuffs. The blend of the material contained a small amount of spandex which rendered a “form-fit” coupled with comfortable movement. The shirt’s distinct characteristics confirmed in my mind that I had found the perfect navy blue shirt which instantly become my favorite shirt.

This shirt was special. Therefore, I was very careful to follow the care instructions printed in its label. I used the gentle cycle when washing the shirt; I laid it flat to dry, hung it on a wooden hanger to maintain its shape and I regularly checked the buttons to ensure that they were securely attached.

A Program Manager from a community outreach organization invited me to lunch to discuss an upcoming workshop that I was facilitating. I wore a business casual pantsuit and my navy blue shirt.  My focus was interrupted several times during lunch by a faint yet annoying smell of tobacco smoke.

 

Unsuccessfully, I searched the room for smoke clouds believing a smoking section was the source of the smell.  Then I asked my colleagues about the smell but they indicated that they did not smell smoke or anything unusual.  Even though I could not see smoke, my sense of smell was providing me with evidence that tobacco smoke was present. What had I failed to consider?

Here is a good place to talk about our once form-fitted, perfect size & color, comfortable, appropriate for any occasion spouse. Yes the husband or wife that you knew was different (from all the rest) the moment that you met them. The spouse that you prepared yourself for and exhibited great endurance while waiting for their arrival. Yes the person who makes your covenant a perfect fit. Is this still how you describe your tailor-made help-meet that God gave to you?

The tobacco smoke smell followed me into the restroom of the restaurant. Looking down to wash my hands, bought my nose closer to my shirt.  Ah ha, I found the source of the smell, it was my navy blue shirt. The invisible evidence was secured deep within its fibers. If subpoenaed, the shirt would prove to be a reliable witness that I had been somewhere in the presence of tobacco smoke. All the care I had given to the way my shirt looked, I never considered the effects of the environments I exposed it to.

 Just like my shirt, proper care is essential to keeping a marriage in good condition. Therefore, here are some “care” questions for you to consider…What environments are you exposing your marriage to? Do you frequent places or events that are geared towards an unmarried demographic? Do you watch television programs that promote deceit, manipulation or secrets? How about entertainment that promotes sex without responsibility? Or do you make an effort to associate with other married couples or singles that support your marriage? What unseen evidence has manifested in your covenant? Do you have an active & satisfying sex life? Do you struggle with an addiction to pornography? Do you struggle with being monogamous? Or do you and your spouse share a “for better or for worse, until death do us part” attitude? What care instructions are you following? Is your spouse your best friend? Do you and your spouse communicate openly & honestly about everything? Have you made an effort to  learn your spouse’s love language?  Do you go with each other to doctor’s appointments? How does your spouse know that you care for them?

Challenge

Carefully follow the care instructions for marriage found in 1 Corinthians 7:

  • Leave anyone, anything and any place that might try to come before your spouse
  • Seek to fulfill one another
  • Seek to have lots of mutually satisfying sex & only abstain for short agreed upon times
  • Serve one another
  • Pray and fast together
  • Cleave to one another

Let the reflection of the love, respect and honor between you and your spouse be the visible evidence of your wedded bliss.

Peace be unto you,